Huh?
I was speaking to a friend of mine the other day. Of course it was about women and how do we keep them and keep them happy while we have them. (only the most important things get discussed here!)
And he is head over heels about a girl he has to wait for. So for the month they are separated, he feels lost. I know the feeling. I remember when my wife would go visit family with our daughter when she was newborn. Making the rounds to sisters and moms and friends. She would leave me for a couple days up to a week and a half.
And what would I do beside read books, catch up on 'man movies' and eat bad... I would fill my time with meaningless stuff, things that kept me busy so I wouldn't realize quite so much how lonely I was. A bit pathetic, perhaps, especially if you saw all the money I spent on the meaningless things but a bit necessary.
So I asked my friend before he spirals into that same down hill slalom, What do you have to offer her? Most women can find someone who can offer affection and attention. That is what me base most of our intermediate relationships on before we call them "the one" or what ever other title we want.
What can you really offer that she would want and can't get anywhere but from you? That would be a peculiar way to look at a lot of our relationships. What if we went to work tomorrow saying, "what am I going to offer at work today that only I can?" What something, exceptional, what something impactful, what something needed can you offer?
It may not be taken, or at least it may not be appreciated. But what are you adding to your relationships, your work, your loves that really matter? I wont tell you what I told my friend, because I think its more about what we see ourselves giving than seeing what others should.
But I promise, it was good!
